Getting Back With Your Ex: Why Is the Idea So Appealing?

  The idea of getting back together with your ex can be appealing for a couple of reasons. For example, it might distract you from the present if things aren’t going so well for you. Or, it might protect your self-esteem by reminding you that, in the past, you were good enough for someone to love you. We might say that the idea of going back with an ex-partner distracts us from the present, and transports us to a happier time.  However, wanting to go back to your ex may be due to self-deception and various thought biases. On the…